Masculinity within the Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander community is yet to be contested via public discourse amongst males. So what contributes to our identity Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander males? What is our masculinity? What is our maleness? Are notions of egalitarianism and role sharing conflated with western constructs of bread-winning and ‘head of the table’ ideologies and are they helpful? What impact is the ‘white fella way of doing things’ having on us as Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander males? Most importantly how does it affect our health? Is leadership about being the boss, or simply knowing what is required of us, and when, as males. Our Brothers from Turtle Island (Canada) are accomplishing the start of this conversation in their communities; building on Indigenous knowledge systems, Indigenous feminism, and queer theory[i]. Indeed, the idea homosexuality is executed insomuch that if it happens in nature, then it happens in life[ii]. If we were to borrow these ideas, what would masculinity look like for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander males, or, at the very least, what would the conversation reveal? Young Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander males are dying by suicide at a rate of knots. It is because their role, function and contribution as Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people is unclear? To some, are they symbols of a lost manhood, or to themselves just continuation of a culture that is static in nature; trying to find their way? Answers will not be presented here, but questions that might lead or at the very least contribute to a discussion that is much needed. Because as Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander males who are we really?